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I'm Reba Herder, founder and director of Everylight and Conversation Strategies, a certified Enneagram instructor, credentialed teacher, ordained minister, and mother of two adult daughters.

I’ve been leading conversations since I was a teenager on the youth cabinet at church. I earned a degree in Religion, a California teaching credential, Training in Ministry Certificate from the Church of the Brethren and the Enneagram instructor’s certificate from Don Riso and Russ Hudson. I’ve taught in a variety of public and private school settings in the US and Ethiopia for almost two decades. I’m an experienced conversation facilitator, trainer, and coach who’s helped thousands respond to stressful circumstances calmly and confidently.

I started Everylight in 2002 to have a safe space to be creative about helping each other thrive. It’s become an interfaith ministry on a mission to create a world of encouragement, one conversation at a time. To complete that mission, we need education for healthy conversations. So I synthesized my eclectic background into The Nine Arts of Healthy Conversation™ to help people develop the tools, skills, and resources we need to cure conversation catastrophes. ‍‍‍

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  • I’m working for a day when the powerful and the powerless can talk to each other, learn from each other, and work side by side.

  • I’m working for a day when the powerful and the powerless can each find: the courage to be vulnerable, the wisdom to see their own strength, and the compassion to see that we are one--for even a superstar is awkward when they try something new; and even a fragile baby can command attention.

  • I’m working for the day when the powerful and the powerless can help each other thrive: when we can each discover what makes us special, share it with the world and encourage others to do the same.

  • I’m working for a day when conversations are made sacred, with authenticity and respect; and we create safe spaces for boldness, weakness, and eccentricities.

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What People Are Saying about Reba:

“Been re-reading Stop Talking and Breathe with a grateful heart. Feeling inspired!"

“I look forward to your posts. They are a little meditation where I take time to breathe and reflect.“

“It was a great workshop. We loved it!”

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It breaks my heart to see the damage that toxic conversations cause. I believe humanity is capable of so much more. I’m passionate about working together to create cultures of healthy conversations that encourage each of us to thrive at home, at work, and in our world.

Three Random Facts about Me (I’d love to hear three random facts about you!)

  1. I’ve read the Lord of the Rings trilogy more than 20 times.

  2. I was bitten by a lion.

  3. I have 21 cousins and 24 nieces and nephews. I have been a “great” aunt since I was 16.

Do you want to read a little bit more first? ‍‍‍Check out my latest blog posts on how to use the Nine Arts of Healthy Conversation™ in everyday situations at work and at home.

“Why didn’t we know about this last year?  We could have really used it when our church was struggling.”

“There is so much here in the book!”

“I feel hopeful now.”

“This is a paradigm shift.”

“I feel inspired!  I haven’t felt inspired for a couple of years.”

  • I’m working for a day when one by one, we can give up our illusions, face our fears, and encourage the best in each other. For then, humanity can begin to fulfill its collective greatness, and then our world will be transformed.

I’m working for a day when every conversation is sacred.

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